Who Says It's a Man's World
The Girls' Guide to Corporate Domination
Author: Emily Bennington
Pub Date: January 2013
Print Edition: $21.95
Print ISBN: 9780814431870
Page Count: 240
e-Book ISBN: 9780814431887
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Having a Career and Kids, without the Mommy Guilt
Five Must-Have Tradeoffs for Working Moms
“If you choose to have a family, the notion that this is an ‘all or nothing’ career decision is ludicrous at best, sinister at worst,” declares Emily Bennington, career success expert and mom to two boys. Still, sacrifices come with the territory—and so does guilt. As Bennington shows in her new book, WHO SAYS IT’S A MAN’S WORLD: The Girl’s Guide to Corporate Domination, working moms can save themselves a lot of heartache by clearly defining and scheduling priorities—for their kids and their work. She highlights five tradeoffs to think about:
Tradeoff 1: Go for the “Big Money.” When it comes to prioritizing your time, your kids aren’t all that different from your boss. Focus on doing what will be the most important, the most visible, and have the most impact. If you can’t make every school assembly and soccer game, ask your kids which events they’d prefer you’d attend. Giving your kids a voice in the decision will help them feel better about it—while learning a valuable lesson in time management. Also, don’t let yourself get talked into behind-the-scenes work that your kids couldn’t care less about. “Before you commit to anything, think about whether your child will notice,” urges Bennington. “If the answer is no, well, there’s your answer.”
Tradeoff 2: Know what’s important to your kids, even if they don’t tell you. If your child senses you are completely stressed out, he may downplay the significance of things he really does care about. It could be the school bus trip you blew off, but it could also be something of greater significance, like unwanted peer pressure or the rejection of a first crush. The way your kids need you has as much to do with what’s going on in their lives as what’s going on in yours. “You can’t get out of tune with them—regardless of how full your inbox is,” Bennington stresses.
Tradeoff 3: Screw guilt. There will always be moms who seem juggle life effortlessly, with time to spare for Zumba. How you compare to them doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is the relationship you have with your child. If you still can’t shake your guilt, try keeping a journal of your finer parenting moments. It will bring you back around when you feel completely hopeless. Bennington also advises: Schedule a girls’ night ASAP. “You’re probably not going through anything a little malbec and a lot of trench stories with other working moms can’t fix,” she assures. “Trust me, it’s way cheaper than therapy.”
Tradeoff 4: Put the end game first. Just like you do at the office, focus on details without losing sight of the bigger picture. Are your kids happy and well adjusted? So who cares if they’ve had a hot breakfast? “Parenting isn’t a day-by-day or week-by-week gig, so forgive yourself (and your boss) if you occasionally have to miss out on something cool because your job needs you,” Bennington states. “If your kids are old enough, use the occasion to explain that you are responsible for something at work and you want to do your best so that you can be proud of the result—and yourself.”
Tradeoff 5: Unapologetically guard your calendar. Your calendar is often a bellwether of your happiness. (“Really,” Bennington attests.) Think about that the next time someone asks you to join a committee you’re not passionate about...or invites you to lunch when you really don’t want to go...or wants to pick your brain over coffee. In the wise words of one of Bennington’s very successful working mom friends, “If it’s not hell yeah, it’s a NO!”
Adapted from WHO SAYS IT’S A MAN’S WORLD: The Girl’s Guide to Corporate Domination by Emily Bennington.
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